Living In Fear

Here's a question...

How many times a week do you alter what you were about to do or think because of what someone else might say or do?

I've definitely been guilty of that in the past.

This quote has been a real guiding light for me over the last few months, it always resets my mind away from the conditioning which has been placed upon it predominantly by the schooling system, the media and my parents.

As we grow up almost everything we do and think gets judged by our teachers, parents or society in general.

What that often leads to as an adult is a fear of doing what our gut is telling us is right, purely because of what other people might think or say.

It also channels us towards doing things just to impress others rather than trusting our own intuition and doing what WE know to be right and believe we are capable of doing.

That's a sure fire shortcut to a pretty unfulfilling life in my opinion...

What would you try in matches if you weren't afraid of getting snarled at by your team mates if it doesn't come off?

What would you tell people your ultimate dream is if you weren't concerned about them laughing at you or saying something like "YOU?! Yeh right!"

I strongly believe that in order to achieve what we want, whether that's in football or general life, then you have to stubbornly act in accordance with what you want.

If you tell the universe in your thoughts that you want to play for Barcelona, but then you eat rubbish food and you're lazy at training, what sort of message is that sending out?

You need to convince your subconscious mind that you have what it takes.

If you want to become the next Ronaldo, then act like Ronaldo now and don't let the opinions of others hold you back from doing what you believe you're truly capable of.

Would Donald Trump have ever become president if he always cared about what other people thought of him?

Unlikely...he stubbornly does and says what he believes to be right and isn't afraid of the consequences of that.

Love him or hate him, it's a quality we could probably all benefit from.

If you can work on this over the next month, I believe you'll see a different player with a new found level of self-confidence staring back at you.

I find it helps to give these negative thoughts and fears a name, I call mine Dave.

Then whenever they try to creep in, I simply say in my head "Get lost Dave!"

And continue doing what I believe to be right.

Let the doubters stay where they are, we're preparing for life at a higher level.

Free your mind.